12. Sorry, Not Sorry!

It’s second nature to apologize, whether we bump into someone on the street or we hurt a loved one unintentionally. As women especially we tend to say sorry more than our male counterparts, in fact, according to a psychological study conducted in 2011, women apologize more than men only because what men consider as “offensive” varies drastically from women. In other words, we as women feel the need to apologize for every little thing because we think we owe an apology, not necessarily because we want to apologize.    In today’s episode, I’m sharing the reasons why you need to stop needlessly apologizing. Listen a genuine apology is important and necessary, but it’s when it becomes part of your daily vocabulary that it needs to change. I explain what got me thinking about this “sorry” phenomenon, especially as moms, why you don’t always need to say sorry, and how as mom’s we feel the need to tread lightly and deflect tension by just saying sorry. I get real in this podcast and you know what? Sorry, not sorry!    In this episode, we cover:

• Sorry is just part of our vocab but you don’t need to apologize  [1:03]
• Mom’s apologize for things that we want when we should accept that we want and need things [7:39]
• It can be annoying when you say sorry too much [15:59]
• Do you know when you need to apologize? [21:28]
• Over apologizing is an act of self-sabotage and justifies our limiting beliefs [28:24]
• Be self-aware of when you’re apologizing [35:22]

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