3. Mommy Martyrdom is Over!

• In this episode you’ll hear: Scottie talks about Mommy Martyrdom, an endemic that impacts moms all over! She shares why it’s problematic and how it negatively impacts your ability to be a good mom (0:50)
• Societal norms around motherhood focus on mothers being selfless, but this means there is an expectation for a mom to sacrifice her own needs, desires, and even health for the sake of “being a good mom.” Scottie shares her thoughts about Mommy Martyrdom and her own experiences of being a mom (3:57)
• We are human and we form our own opinions which is normal until these opinions pass off as judgment calls. Scottie discusses how judgment (both internal and external) play into the Mommy Martyrdom complex and her own experiences with comparison and this desire to be “perfect” (7:05)
• Why do we feel the need to judge other moms for the same experiences we’ve been through or are going through? Scottie shares the different ways mom judgment can pop up in day to day life (11:51)
• To be the very best mom you can be we end up torturing ourselves in the name of motherhood and as a form of competition with other moms. Scottie talks about this supermom complex and why is self-sacrificing equated with good motherhood? (18:32)
• Rather than judging other moms, Scottie makes a point about how we should actually learn from other moms and their experiences (25:15)
• Why Mommy Martyrdom is actually an active choice rather than a forced obligation (29:25)

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